Okay, okay. So, I definitely dig older guys--particularly of the Jeremy Irons/Gary Oldman variety. . .grey, maybe a little scruffy, scars a plus. I'll take them charming and fun-loving, too, please. And attracting older men, in general, is not an issue, especially if I'm clad in knee-high socks or bouncing around. But I seem to have an issue attracting the type I like. I'm bouncy, interested, cheerful, and a pretty agreeable girl. I don't think I'm a beast, either, but see for yourself. (if you do some digging around, you'll see my boyfriend, but, we're poly. Could that be my obstacle?)
How do you really interest an older man? When you manage to gather some contact information (usually an e-mail, in my case), what do you say to hint at an interest, particularly unprompted? And how, in general, do you act around them? I'm rather frustrated with all this, because I feel like I have the right tools, but I don't know how to use them.